Should I be worried about this or do you think it'll pass...? Does he feel emasculated?

Okay well my husband and I got into a fight about sex and how I feel he mocks me when he calls me pretty during (I'm insecure, he knows this!) and he's never really aggressive and then he proceeds to tell me that it frustrates him when I don't allow him to let me "get off" because sometimes it's too intense and i can't take it and he called me crazy and paranoid and suggested that I 'speak' to sometimes about my many issues. Well later last week we had intercourse but he was kinda aggressive and I liked it but now i'm kinda worried about where this is leading. He performed oral sex on me but when I told him to stop he kept going and held on to me legs tight when I tried to move backwards and it felt sooooo amazing but his behavior was very unlike him and I liked it but i'm a little concerned about where this may take up in the future and when I was kinda over it he kinda said in a crudely to suck him and i was taken aback by this because he's usually so nice when he asks and then i took a shower and we went to bed but we haven't discussed it and he's now acting normally but we have done anything since... have I messed up and gotten myself into something or do you think it was a late reaction or something?