Please give me advice on strength and being brave...?

i totally understand. it's all about being assertive/tactful and not aggressive. i noticed that when passive people simmer on situations vs solving them it leads to being passive-agressive and that's how i was as a teen. now as an adult i tell it to your face and trust me, i feel so good afterwards that confrontations don't scare me anymore cause at the end of the day it's ur sanity that you gotta take care of. and as far as these reality tv chicks, just because they scream the loudest doesn't mean they're right.